Jesus, man. I'll definitely be praying for you and your kids. I'm curious as to whether the state will give you custody if your kids don't want to live with your ex-wife (or if you guys can prove that she's mentally unstable). Keep us posted, man. I can't even begin to imagine the *** you go through.
Sorry to hear this brother, not sure how it is in MO but here in OK kids can kind of make their own decisions after a certain age (I think it's 12 here not sure though) I'm not one to say get into debt is the answer but even if you can't afford it lawyer up on this and keep a journal of everything that happens and keep you kids as safe as you can from her foolishness karma will eventually take this burden out of your life. You and your family will be in our prayers.
he will understand that she is the problem over time. kids understand whats up. they arent dumb. if he wants contacts, he will see her keeping him from them. i know it wont make you feel better but your kids will see it. they always do.
Jsnake, I will pray for your boys and yourself. Keep your head up, we can only imagine what you're going through, but like many on here already said, it WILL work out. Just keep doing right by your kids, and they'll appreciate it!
After leaving some nasty messages on voicemail which we have saved she is now on the high side of her mental illness and trying to play nice. You would think after 10 years, a new marriage, and 2 kids with her new husband she would get over all this but no. Anyways things are cooling down. All I want is what is best for my kids. I have no interest in playing games or hurting her in anyway. I just want my boys to be happy and grow up us good people. Despite all of this one boy gets straight A's and the other gets A's and B's. They are really good boys
I agree...seems like you have a great perspective on the situation and the immense challenge for you it just to continue doing what is in the best interest of your children.
It is hard but I try not letting her get to me. Otherwise I would be miserable 24/7. I am a big boy and can handle it. What upsets me is how it all effects my boys.
Just a little update. So far things have cooled off like they usually do. Bi-polar people have ups and downs and she is on the up now. Finally after 10 years of talk she finally is getting my son his braces which we paid our half of on a credit card. Long story. She finally agreed to let my son have his contacts so I took them over to him the day before school started. Hopefully this "up" lasts a while. I don't need the stress and drama at all. No word on child support yet.
Wow man. Just wow... I can't imagine what you've been going through. I'm glad my ex-fiancee and I never had a child. She threw a psycho tantrum when I left and took the dog (that I paid for and his papers are in my name). But, having kids thrown into the mix. I wish the best for you and your boys. Hope everything turns out in the end.
Whew! Good luck bro, I liked the go back to court and fight for custody, it certainly sounds like your kids would be better off with you than this pair of psycho deadbeats. I understand about the MO law part, lot's of folks asked me why I didn't take my kid and leave my first wife. Well, we're in Tennessee, it was the mid-70's, and the woman ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS got custody, no matter what. I told myself I'd hang in, no matter what, and when my son was 15 he started begging me to give her the boot. Tough times, especially since when he was small, and I was working all the time, she'd fill his head with crap. My heart goes out to you, keep fighting, sometimes the good guy wins, even if he has and outie instead of an innie.
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