ATTN BORKs: I Need Help Guys

Anonymous One

docbp87

Buy a gun, even if you never shoot it. And God forbid you ever have to use the thing to defend her, or yourself.

fla-gypsy

Assure her that you would rip any intruder apart at the limbs and hack them into pieces before you would let anything happen to her. On 2nd thought not sure that would help.

cabinetmaker

My past is similar. I'm upfront with everybody that asks that needs to know. You need to have the discussion early on so she never "hears" anything from someone else that comes as a shock. Don't go into all the details, and nothing that can be used against you if the statutes have not run out; but be as open as you safely can.

kaipocruz1

I can see the seriousness of the situation, because I know you just want your fiance to feel safe around you. I was a terrible human being for a good five year stint and spent a lot of my time getting 86'ed from bars for fighting...none of this was introduced to my wife until after we were married. In fact the only way she found out about all this was when a friend of mine decided to tell her some of the stories at a backyard bbq. I didn't plan on ever telling her about all that crap...but she found out and now I think she's a little scared of me. I guess I'm saying that once you go down that road and tell all...theres no going back and you don't know how shes going to react.

jsnake

I know who you are and I can see why she feels this way. I trust you and know from our conversations what a good hearted person you are. Maybe because I am a guy I have a different perspective. I have no doubt that you could whoop someone's butt if needed even though i would trust you in my home with my family. Obviously this is bothering you but I would try to not let it. I bet deep inside she knows that you can protect her but she doesn't want to think of you as some monster beating people. She wants you to be her cuddly bear and she wants to keep seeing you that way in her mind. I don't think she means any disrespect by it though. You know in your mind that if things went bad you are fully capable of protecting her so be confident and secure in yourself.

YankeeMan

TatuajeVI

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ENFIDL

First of all congrats in cleaning yourself up and getting away from the violent things you were doing. Secondly obviously she loves you regardless of the fact so if the situation arises handle it. She will see that you can handle yourself and know that you can protect her. Those actions will speak louder than anything else.

lilwing88

Anonymous One

PuroFreak

These Filthy Hands

The Cank

take her out to a bar a smash the biggest guys face in right in front of her... That should do the trick ! Seriously a gun is a good idea but it doesn't really help the fact that she thinks you are a teddybear. This is a tuff situation, I'm not sure how I would go about it.

Diamondog

I would start with the fact that you cannot have an open conversation with someone you are going to marry and spend the rest of your life with, seems alarming to me that you cannot...not a judgement just alarming...