Wives and Smoking

newbiesmoker24

I saw some posts about wives and smoking. Is there anyone out there who is: A) Still happily married and Your wife DOES NOT share and/or love your hobby of cigar smoking? If so, what are some good suggestions on how to keep the peace, the marriage, and still keep your hobby? (I know I am going to get some smart a$$ responses here, but some creative ideas mixed in would be appreciated!) :-)

sightunseen

newbiesmoker24

Ha ha. Yes, buying a new wife could be an option; but this one is a pretty good value so I will keep her. I have heard the adage to put God first, wife second, and family third. So I guess the rest falls behind that, whether it be cigars or sports or any other hobby. Thanks sightunseen!

brotheradam

I'm still a newbie with just about a year of smoking cigars, been married 13 years but I smoke on the patio (not in the house or garage) and if she's home I'll usually take a shower after smoking so as not to carry the smell all over the house. I also really try not to overbuy cigars, but that happens from time to time

wwhwang

She doesn't count your cigars, you won't count her purses and shoes Nuff said.

PuroFreak

My wife will occasionally take a puff off my cigar but for the most part doesn't partake. She doesn't mind me smoking just sometimes gets onto me for buying... Of the cigars she has tried the Tatuaje Reserva SW is her favorite so far.

newbiesmoker24

So you were married before the cigars came huh? That is the situation with me and my wife. So there is a bit of adjustment that still has to occur. She is not a huge fan of this hobby (of which I have many). I definitely shower before going to bed after a smoke. The aromas of a good cigar are amazing during; but day-old smoky hair, breath, and clothing are never appetizing to me or her!

t_evan50

undulac

Krieg

My wife couldn't understand why I started smoking cigars, she just sees a "big cigarette". I told her that comparing a cigar to a cigarette is like comparing sugar and splenda...they are not the samething by far. She tried to get me to quit and I rather declined. She has given up trying to get to me to quit and now just have come to terms with it, I can't smoke inside or anything fun like that, but at least she's stopped bitching at me. Don't give up, persistence is the key

YankeeMan

boydmcgowan

Schrooz

Make sure to time a couple of your smoking sessions with the bedroom session, know what I mean. That way you're amped on the cigar and make like a raging bull. And if she persist in her complaints and take away your cigars, make like a brainless rooster, know what I am getting at? And, needless to say, do take a shower and brush before the action commences. It's kind of a lot of extra work (maybe) and underhanded tactic but it's a last line of defense that may save you.

Russ55

My wife actually bought me my first humidor. She knows cigars aren't just big cigarettes. As long as I'm reasonable with my purchases it's all good.

jship079

My wife does not like cigars or that I smoke them but she knows i love it and supports my hobbi we just always disscuss what I am buying so I am held accountable for not spending thousands because I just might she even gets me stuff some times

Dustin1981

My wife likes the smell of cigars so she enjoys my smoking. She even set up a smoking room for me in the house but I have moved it to the garage since she didnt think about how much it would stink up the house. I thanked her for the thought but moved it all outside. I just manage the amount of money that I spend on cigars and as long as I dont go overboard she doesnt complain.

ThinBluLine06

My wife doesnt mind when I meet a buddy at the B&M once per week, its good because it just so happens that the time we go is when she is at work...I also go out on the back porch when she is not around. Usually I just find time when my wife is running errands or at work. It has become a little more difficult as of late however because we have a newborn. Now my only hope to catch a good smoke is at like 2am when both of my babies are sleeping!

ScottTDawg

Lasabar

wwhwang:

She doesn't count your cigars, you won't count her purses and shoes Nuff said.

Or marry one too stupid to count, then you don't have a problem!

bigharpoon

My wife is pretty cool with the whole thing, she even buys me cigars on Father's day. I search for sales, bargains and deals so we don't have money budget issues but rather time budget issues. I make sure I don't slack with my fatherly duties and get my smoking in on "my time" when everything else is done and I'm good to go. The only time I get the hairy eyeball is when another humidor shows up in the mail. Oops.

Hays

phobicsquirrel

phobicsquirrel

Lasabar:

wwhwang:

She doesn't count your cigars, you won't count her purses and shoes Nuff said.

Or marry one too stupid to count, then you don't have a problem!

dude, that's a good idea!

kuzi16

my wife is gong with me to nicaragua on a cigar trip in january.

The Sniper

Poker Slob

Mrs. Slob totally understands this hobby of ours,and never complains. I am financially responsible about my cigar purchases, which I believes helps quite a bit. I smoke outside when I can, but I also have a fully enclosed sun porch with sliding glass doors on 3 sides for my inside smoking. I feel very lucky with my situation.

newbiesmoker24

Thanks for all the feedback everyone. It seems like most of us (except for the very lucky few) have at least some sort of friction on the subject. Although, even in the last week my wife has made less of a big deal about it. I think she just hates the smell mostly. Other than that, as long as I keep it on my time, and within a decent budget, it hasn't been an issue. Thanks!

stephen_hannibal

Diamondog

Wife initially was not happy about me getting into cigars, quite angry in fact. Once I got tired of her attitude when she knew I was going to have one (got the silent treatment or not very pleasent) I made it clear to her that I understand her concerns and I accept that she doesn't like it but also made it clear I would not tolerate being treated poorly because of it. Once I did that, it was easy for her to accept it and in fact she will sit with me outside and talk as she realizes this is one of the few things that slows me down for any significant period of time so she takes the opportunity...

YankeeMan

vegassparky

I must have got lucky. My wife will take a draw or two, if she likes the smell of the cigar. She bought me my first 20 count humidor when we were dating, cause i would buy some sticks and put them in ziplock bags. For a wedding present she bought me a 300 count humi. She gets on me from time to time about keeping too many sticks. I now have two 300 humi's full. I dont smoke in the house, and i get to keep my hobby. And she has found 3 cigars she loves me to smoke, so she can smoke alittle.