But I don't hang around any guys when I smoke! Just my female Chocolate Labrador retriever, lol!
To play devil's advocate here:
You're on here chatting with a bunch of guys on a pretty regular basis.
One or two of those guys sent you gifts in the mail after hardly knowing you more than a day or two, and some of the rest are telling you what to try next and anticipating your writing about your experiences.
Now, don't get me wrong, everyone here knows that this same thing happens to most guys that are friendly enough to say 'hi' as well, but my point is that your husband sure as hell doesn't know that. A lot of people tend to get nervous/jealous when their spouse takes up a new hobby that doesn't involve them and involves others they don't know. Also, a lot of people fear that their spouse will begin cheating on them through the internet. You've kind of unwittingly hit your husband with a one-two punch of both at the moment.
I'd start there, and if concerns like chemicals don't magically vanish, you can address them later.
It's a fine line to walk, but Ken you made a very accurate and valid point! To be fair Salem, I would honestly stay firm and not let your husband act as a father. He is your partner, not your warden, and this respect needs to be valued and followed especially in times of great distress and challenges. If this helps you, stick with it and enjoy the hell out of it! Communicate with him, and give him time to come around, but making a conflict out of it will serve the opposite purpose though so just be patient but steady and solid. Good luck and be who YOU want to be, not who someone else wants you to be
But I don't hang around any guys when I smoke! Just my female Chocolate Labrador retriever, lol!
To play devil's advocate here:
You're on here chatting with a bunch of guys on a pretty regular basis.
One or two of those guys sent you gifts in the mail after hardly knowing you more than a day or two, and some of the rest are telling you what to try next and anticipating your writing about your experiences.
Now, don't get me wrong, everyone here knows that this same thing happens to most guys that are friendly enough to say 'hi' as well, but my point is that your husband sure as hell doesn't know that. A lot of people tend to get nervous/jealous when their spouse takes up a new hobby that doesn't involve them and involves others they don't know. Also, a lot of people fear that their spouse will begin cheating on them through the internet. You've kind of unwittingly hit your husband with a one-two punch of both at the moment.
I'd start there, and if concerns like chemicals don't magically vanish, you can address them later.
Point taken.
BINGO! That's kind of what I was thinking when I suggested that you include him in this new hobby of yours.
I tried to get him to join me, but he wouldn't. I don't want to alienate my husband, but I'm all for standing up for what I believe in. Thanks for all the advice. He knows I post here and he knows I got free stuff from 2 nice people here and though He doesn't like the idea of me smoking the cigar, he did not get upset with the gifts. Just didn't want ya'll to think I'm being sly with hubby.
Not sure what you meant when you said you tried to get him to join you Salem, but here's a thought - what does your hubby do for stress management? If that's something he can do outside with you while you're puffing on a stogie, you could try that. Both of you de-stressing at the same time, even in your separate ways, can be a super relaxing thing for both of you.
Stress gone, a nice sunset... he11, throw in a couple of claw-foot bathtubs and this could turn into a Cialis commercial for ya! :-D Good luck and keep us posted.
Well, I might as well throw the cigar smoking idea in the dump. My husband is very opposed to my smoking cigars, EVEN if I do it on the back porch with no one around. He thinks I'm off my rocker. I disagree. I've been under a great amount of stress for a long time, and if I want to take the edge off with a cigar, why not? It's not illegal, I'm hurting no one. I could do a lot worse things. I can't even drink (I didn't like it), but I did like the cigars I've had.
Does anyone have any kind of clue to help persuade my husband that this is not crazy? I'm really disappointed. I'm not the kind of woman that bows down to her husband, and we both work to make our living and we have a good marriage, for many years, but I do have to live with him and would preferably like to do it in peace.
I'm so disappointed. There's got to be a way! Suggestions?
So help me, I want to go smoke one.
Dumb the husband, smoke with the dog. Dogs are much more accomodating.
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Stress gone, a nice sunset... he11, throw in a couple of claw-foot bathtubs and this could turn into a Cialis commercial for ya! :-D Good luck and keep us posted.