Court Runied My Month

Rain

My wife has an exhusband (Taylor) with whom she has a daughter (Tera) with. In the divorce decree, it lists all the dates and times that my wife and Taylor have to exchange Tera. We have Tera pretty much all the time, minus every other weekend.The decree says that whomever is picking her up has to go to the others persons residence in order to get her. Well, my wife works, so it falls on to me to pick up Tera sometimes. Taylor had his apartment complex ban me for no reason, so then there is no way that I can go pick her up, nor would he agree on a place for us to meet.There were two visits in November that my wife had to work and we did not send Tera. We did not send her because he would not give us a location to pick her up. Yesterday, my wife got a supoena to appear in court to answer for violating the decree. Taylor is asking that she be fined, jailed and forced to pay his attorny fees.Runis my whole month. Not only is my wife freaking out, but I'm going to have to pay an attorney.

Bigshizza

That sucks!! I had HIGH drama trying to get my kids. She felt it was o.k. To not open the door, leave notes on the door and have my kids cancel at the last moment. Such petty BS that just makes life difficult! But, that's their plan, irritate the hell out of you! Hopefully one day there is payback. Hope all goes well for your family Randy

brianetz1

it is amazing that adults can be so petty and in the process ruin a childs life.

Rain

About a month ago, I got a call from the police dept, to tell me I was banned from the apartment complex Taylor lives at. I told the officer I only go there to pick up my daughter, it's not like I'm hanging out there tagging the place...it's 30 miles away from where I live. He tells me that most people agree to meet at the police station.So then I call the apartment complex and ask them what's up. They, in not so many words, said since Taylor is paying them and I'm not...no skin off their back to ban me. They do give me the idea to call back the police.So I call back the police and explain to them that I HAVE to go there, and they tell me to call them when I get there. Last week, we have to pick up Tera and my wife is working, so I show up outside the apartment complex and call the police.About an hour later, a cop comes and I explain to him what you all now know. I tell him that if I was trying to be petty, I would ban Taylor from MY house. That's not what I want. I don't like the guy, but should be able to be civil and act like adults. He has no record of me being banned, despite the fact that the police called me. So he goes in and talks to the apartment owners, who tell him they don't care if I'm out front, I just can't go inside. The cop tells them that that does not make much sense, so they ban me (again). The cop has Taylor's girlfriend bring out my daughter, and explains to her that they can ban me if they want, but then they HAVE to agree to an alternate meeting place.

webmost

I pity the children who wind up in the middle of this.

Rain

webmost:

I pity the children who wind up in the middle of this.

The most strange thing to me is, that at some point, my wife and this guy loved each other. Could they ever imagine it being this way when they were married? I think divorce brings out the worst in people.

Rain

brianetz1:

it is amazing that adults can be so petty and in the process ruin a childs life.

Explain, please.

George249

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Rhamlin

What a d!ck!

RBeckom

brianetz1

not you.....the father of the child is being an ass hole. The kids end up knowing that this stuff happens and then view this as a normal relationship.

xmacro

brianetz1:

not you.....the father of the child is being an ass hole. The kids end up knowing that this stuff happens and then view this as a normal relationship.

That depends on the age and the kid themselves. I've got plenty of friends who've gone thru bad divorces as kids; a lot of them grew up to be very caring spouses - they saw what went wrong with their parents and went the opposite way.

brianetz1

xmacro:

brianetz1:

not you.....the father of the child is being an ass hole. The kids end up knowing that this stuff happens and then view this as a normal relationship.

That depends on the age and the kid themselves. I've got plenty of friends who've gone thru bad divorces as kids; a lot of them grew up to be very caring spouses - they saw what went wrong with their parents and went the opposite way.

True....I shouldnt generalize.

Rain

So we spoke to a lawyer today. They think we can get it be so that the judge picks a neutral location for pickup/drop off. Since we broke the decree by not sending her, and Taylor has kept Tera past the court ordered time...they can cancel each other out. The bad news is...the lawyer needs/wants a $2,500.00 retainer fee.

ENFIDL

Sorry to hear this man. That really sucks. Hope it all gets resolved soon

pross

Rain

Too bad I don't have $2,500 in stick value either!